What To Do When Things Don't Go Your Way

In life, there are many times where things won't go our way; whether our plans don't end up how we wanted them to or someone tells us no. When this happens, it can become one of the biggest sources of stress and anxiety if we let it.

So what can we do to navigate situations like these with more ease, flow, and peace?

There is actually a practical reason as to why you shouldn't let situations like that get the best of you. The moment you become irritated, frustrated, or stressed; the only person getting hurt is you. When something happens outside of our control, all you need to step back, take a deep breath, and simply surrender to the process. Understand that how you feel is your responsibility and only you get to choose. Nothing can disturb your peace, unless you let it.

Once again, if you stay in those emotions of frustration and anger the moment you hit a roadblock, you're only hurting yourself. You must acknowledge the emotions for what they are, understand what the message is, and then simply breathe and keep on going. Sometimes, to keep on going can mean you need to take a break.

I'm going to use myself as an example of this. Just the other day, I was creating a video for the Pazitud website but it just wasn't flowing. It was not happening. (Check out 3:28 of the video above to see what I'm talking about.)

In that moment, after several takes of noticing that it just wasn't flowing, I realized that I had a choice. I could either continue to go at it and be there for five hours, trying to make it work. Or, I could simply observe what was going on and just take a break. I could stop for the moment and really go deeper as to why it was not flowing and learn what I needed to adjust in order to do this through more peace.

What came up that day was my 5 year old self–the child version of me that would get frustrated when her hair didn't come out perfectly. I saw a little glimpse of that in my adult self. In moments like this, we just need to be kind to ourselves so that we can understand what needs to be changed.

For me to properly channel a message that the universe wants me to share, I can't also be worrying about a million other things: the camera, the position, the lighting, and so on. To be thinking of all those things is a lot to ask of any human being. So applying this to my situation, I learned that it's better for me to come up with a script so that the creativity can happen from a more relaxed state. By doing this, I can also focus on all the other variables when I'm actually doing the recording. Lo and behold, when I tried it again with my script a few days later, everything was flawless

I have another perspective for you to consider when it comes to situations that don't go your way.

All of us humans have egos and we are perfect yet imperfect all at the same time. We don't have all the answers there are to be had in the world. Not you, not me, nor anybody else in the world. We can make mistakes and we can be upset, frustrated, or sad when we want things but don't get them.

I want you to keep in mind that you are here on this planet to deliver a mission. You are here to learn to grow, but also to contribute something very special and specific to the world. There are forces outside of your human self; some people call them God, some people call them the universe, and some people call them the higher consciousness. Whatever you want to call it, I know for a fact that there is a greater mechanism at play here, whether we understand it or not, and you are part of this greater mechanism.

And so when things are not going your way, it means the thing you're trying to get is not what the higher power wants for you. Often, you need to understand or learn something from that experience. There is always a greater plan for you.

So become aware and observe when things are not flowing, when they're not really materializing into what you want. Just observe what the message is. Observe and adjust as you go.

Remember, absolutely nobody has the power to make you feel anything other than what you want to feel. The moment you let external circumstances decide that for you, you are giving away your power.